Posted by Family Volley on April 10, 2023 · 1 Comment
Rejection is part of life. And although it is not fun, it is something that we all have to deal with.
As parents, it is key for us to help our children understand rejection, long before it hits them, so that the situations don’t set them back, discourage them, or keep them from trying again.
When your child is faced with rejection, don’t overreact. We need to sympathize with them, listen to them, and let them know they are understood. Then we can work to develop a plan to handle the situation.
After rejection, children are already feeling sad, hurt and vulnerable. They need us to be supportive and loving. It is not the time to lecture, say “I told you so”, or try to prove a point. This will only make our children feel rejected again.
Conversations about rejection need to focus on a few key points…
- Help children understand what rejection is. Explain that it is a part of life.
- Talk to them about the fact that not everyone will want to be their friend, or include them. That is okay and is not a reflection on them.
- Talk to them about not relying on others to define their worth.
- Talk to your child about choosing friends who are kind and accepting.
It is also important for us as parents, to model good behavior when it comes to rejection. Our children watch everything we do.
Lastly, talk about past situations where your child (or when you) have worked through rejection. Talk about the strategies they used and help them apply “what worked” to new situations.
There is no way around it, rejection will happen. Preparing our children ahead of time will give them the courage to work through it and move on.
Very valuable tips. My kids are very young so I’m likely just about to have to start dealing with this as they go through school and I’m sure these will help me out because rejection is inevitable and that will be one tough lesson for my boys to learn.